In May, on the day after the grandfater had me restrained with an order of protective custody which kept me against my will in a hospital for up to 15 days, he posted a 'NO PASS' on the camp door.

But they can't use their credit as they both have child custody cases on going.

The question is- who has care, custody and control of the property at the time.

You would need to find a Self-directed IRA custodian or administrator to administer and provide custody to your IRA.

Now in the midst of this I have had a custody issue for my 2 girls over the same 4 years which now I am about to get full custody, if I have both my girls I face immediate eviction and we are all homeless.

One thing it seems is that with a trust company they have to review each transaction and with a financial planner/advisor you can control the transaction with out custodial approval.

In my opinion, I would request a redemption quote from the foreclosed borrower (They call the lender and find out what they have to pay), so that you know exactly what that amount is.If you want to read the actual statute: (1) A purchaser's deed under section 3232 is void if the mortgagor, the mortgagor's heirs or personal representative, or any person that has a recorded interest in the property lawfully claiming under the mortgagor or the mortgagor's heirs or personal representative redeems the entire premises sold by paying the amount required under subsection (2) and any amount required under subsection (4), within the applicable time limit prescribed in subsections (7) to (12), to the purchaser or the purchaser's personal representative or assigns, or to the register of deeds in whose office the deed is deposited for the benefit of the purchaser. (2) The amount required to be paid under subsection (1) is the amount that was bid for the entire premises sold, interest from the date of the sale at the interest rate provided for by the mortgage, the amount of the sheriff's fee paid by the purchaser under section 2558(2)(q), and an additional $5.00 as a fee for the care and custody of the redemption money if the payment is made to the register of deeds.

And a custodial company can require an attorney to read and sign off on your Operating Agreement.  

If you decide that using an LLC is too complicated or risky, you can always unwind the LLC and use a traditional custodial model to purchase your property directly with an SDIRA.

Custodians are permitted to custody assets held in an IRA under IRC Section 408(n).