I have previous experience with SEO and rankings so I was able to get my site indexed within 24 hours easily.

I've thought about the same ideas you pose in your question - some fantastic BP Podcast Episodes that relate are:#9 - Using Hard Money Lenders to Grow Your Business with Ann Bellamy - this one could be interesting for you because you could be the money side of a deal#28 - Note Investing and Raising Private Money with Dave Van Horn - If you sold a business at 19, you must be money savvy so check out note investing#138 - Self Storage, Systems, and SEO with Michael Rogers - Self Storage can provide very attractive potential depending on your geographic region...something I'm looking into myselfIf you find decision making & behavioral psychology interesting, some books I highly recommend are:The Power of Habit - Charles DuhiggInfluence: The Psychology of Persuasion - Robert CialdiniLogic of Failure - Dietrich DörnerLet me know how things go and good luckMike

Then I need a way to monetize and affiliate link and SEO back to all the other crap I'm selling. 

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By doing that so, try to someone who the job for you who are better in SEO.

HALF of that money and invest this into SEO.

Have a website that is the highly ranked in terms of SEO for your local area for common motivated seller keywords, be able to convert those eyeballs to leads at a consistent rate based on your content and then be able to convince those leads to sell at a high rate based on your salemanship skills.If you can do those three things, you'll be golden...

How have other buy and hold investors handled the influx of leads through lead generation (albeit direct mail, lead generation website, seo) but not become wholesalers?

I have some knowledge about internet marketing and i have some freelancers that can do website and some SEO.