My lender hinted heavily that there were/are a lot more and better, more generous wholesalers in our market to do business with. 

These buyers are probably using FHA loans which are: a pain in the butt oftentimes, more often have delays which delay the closing, and hints that the buyer doesnt have much cash 5.

This will give you some hints.

It seems like they don't get the hint, and sometimes I am just straight rude, especially at open houses where the listing agent isn't really present and you have an agent their trying to get customers.

^ dont wholesalers usually include a contract contingency that hints at wholesaler intent?

Learn how to find deals (hint:  you won't find many on the MLS).

Anna, one area hinted at above is to look at your turnarounds some more...that is, what are you doing in terms of maintence, repair and replacement at the turn arounds when a tenant moves out and before you re-rent it?..

Some early deeds might even list the improvement made thereon ... a hint that there was something constructed.

The attorney needs to be experienced in how the lender will view you as a candidate for various options; bankrutpcy (7 and 13), foreclosure, short sale, with or without reaffirming the HELOC debt with an unsecured promissory note.The key is to subtly or directly threaten the lenders with the scenario that would cause them the greatest loss, so that you can negotiate the most favorable outcome for you in which you want to minimize a tax bill, salvage your credit, be rid of the house, and not be dogged by deficiency judgments or large promissory notes.

HINT!