We haven't done a deal since because he is opening a business.I have 40k in savings, only debt is car payment of 365, no rent/mortgage living with sibling, not married no kids.

To correct the problem, I was told by a probate attorney's assistant (because of my prior experience as a legal secretary) that I should prepare a small estate affidavit, having the document signed, notarized by all siblings and two witnesses.

Should I get the loan approval letter in NY or when I visit my siblings for the whole Thanksgiving week, at a local mortgage lender near them?

She left my siblings and I, some money.

This week, I have had two similar situations pop up.On two different occasions, I have made offers on off-market leads where the sellers had a sibling they needed to consult with.

That's generally "family" siblings, cousins and such.Mom is probably a different story, parents usually don't want to "short" their kids, be a burden, but you know mom better than we do!

My three siblings and I recently inherited my father's house within the city limits of Two Harbors, MN.  

I had shared the concerns expressed above, but as a parent of 2 boys and one of 4 siblings growing up poor, I would have really appreciated to have been taught the *financial literacy* component early on!!

His mother had passed and he and his 3 siblings own the house.

My 3 siblings and I inherited my mom's house after she passed away in 2008.