@Chris Seveney We havent asked this question yet, How would we structure this?

The property was finally sold to a developer who built a 3-story structure housing 6 condos that sold for half a million each.Getting variances is quite time consuming in our area and I attended quite a few community board meetings which one has to attend before going to a zoning board meeting.

Oddly enough in this document they define multi-family as: “ "MULTI-FAMILY" means a structure containing three or more dwelling units or a bed and breakfast dwelling that has six or more guest rooms. 

So how should a buyer then structure his offer to stipulate that the seller must reimburse the buyer for that commission?

There are less foreign national programs but I know of at least one foreign national program that structures the loan this way. 

Make sure you understand how the property ownership is structured there.

I’ve never used private money and was wondering how I could structure it? 

I'm sorry you're going through this, but take it as an opportunity to step back and create some structure around what you are doing OR hire a PM who has those in place and will protect you from frivilous lawsuits. 

Also, to find deals with $50K spreads you're usually looking at major problems such as septics, structural, etc. 

I want to understand how to structure the finance terms.if for example the house is on the market  for $200K1. how much do i ask for down payment2 going interest rate?