Since you're in Central Jersey, I'll keep my advice general.First, think about your personal strengths and how they fit into your investment strategy.

We decided several years ago that landlording was not the right fit for our family, and I'm thinking of toe-dipping into the crowdfunding services to see if it works for us.  

@Jeff Ryers  don't forget to modify what you download to fit your property. 

They purchased it for $3m, put $750k into it, we expect it to appraise for $5m, and are seeking loan proceeds of $3m.Here are three commercial mortgages that might be a good fit (click to enlarge, if necessary):Not listed there, but from left to right: Points are 1.25, 1.5, and 1.Prepayment penalties are 5 years, no, and no.The way to read "3/25, 15 years maturity" is that the rate is fixed for 3 years then adjusts, it has a 25 year amortization, and a balloon payment at the 15 year mark. 

., and I'll try to give you my suggestions for what areas might fit your preferences. 

Yup, people will throw a fit and then.... they'll get a job. 

Are there any lenders that would be a good fit for this scenario?

As mentioned prior, a DST may be a good fit.

I'd also really appreciate any thoughts on choosing a big national bank vs. a smaller organization, as well as advice on how to filter through banking options to find a good fit. 

they'll probably talk your ear off =)also look into house hacking if that fits your lifestyle.