It's just is so much less confrontational, and less destructive to just qualify what you know and how you know it.

I need advice on how to confront a slum landlord that benefits both sides.

When I confronted my PM he simply explained that they hadn't ever had a problem with smokers inside the house.

They are not getting along at all due to his constant complaining and confrontations that were initiated by him.

That is my point.I have purchased 8 or so foreclosed homes so far and I have not been confronted with this yet.

Many people don't want to be "confrontational" at the closing table, but you would have taken an unnecessary risk walking out of there with a personal check.These are great lessons for the uninitiated to learn and know about.

Cropped tail, and they didn't deny it's a full rottie when I confronted them.

I've also noticed with people this - when you don't hear from them (they don't answer or return calls), it's their way of trying to back out without confrontation.

And when you go to a church to seek assistance people are confronted with "humility" and "moral judgement" and such.

I follow up with a phone call, ONE phone call, two days later, a letter 4-5 days after that and a notice my offer no longer stands (worded more friendly with a slew of options for the seller to keep the opportunity open) a few days after that.Some sellers will just have second thoughts and choose to avoid the confrontation of directly turning you down.