No one could articulate how that was compounding to eventually cause a housing crash and furthermore, even if you could articulate it in theory, you couldn't prove it.

It seems you've articulated the strategy nicely - you're going to arrange the financing such that they put 100K down, get a first lien and you come in for a lien on the property in second place.

Now if you and your partners haven't clearly articulated why you want to invest in RE, then no amount of research or modeling will help.

As you have articulately pointed out, the mortgage is not a closing costs so it need to be added back in. 

Anybody have idea's to help me get the creative juices flowing on creating an environment where I can get attorneys receptive to helping me by finding a way to articulate helping them?

@Michael PlaksSorry, let me see if I can articulate my question properly haha.

@Dave Foster articulated a great and comprehensive response and the only addition to that answer is that, like Dave mentioned, these types of transactions must be planned out well in advance and if you were to find yourself in a situation where a reverse exchange would be required, please spend the money and get counsel involved as it is always worth it but ensure they are experienced and well versed in this field of law.

Hey buddy, everybody else perfectly articulated the main point.

In this letter we also articulate the methods by which rent can be paid; when rent is considered late; and when we will take action on late rent.In a reasonable window after Close (typically 1-3 months) or at the next anniversary date of a tenant's lease, all tenants are provided with new leases containing our house rules.  

I think that reaching that point always has to be a team effort - for her to agree to engage in the conversation and articulate specifics, and for you to be a good listener, be able to back up your ideas, and maybe agree to compromise on the riskier aspects, or at least wait until there is more of a track record.