Here’s my two cents......i live outside Santa Fe NM. Love it here. Tons of open space and room to roam. The perfect balance of 4 seasons for me, and it isn't humid. Rental market is very tight here. More apartments are in the works but it will take a while to fill the need. It’s expensive. Not great public schools. Business is based much on tourism, and it’s the state capital so lots of government workers. I don't have children so schools aren't a concern. There is so much going on here culturally for the size of the town. Diverse ethnic groups. Albuquerque is the big city in the state, but it’s too big for me and too hot. I dont think the public schools there are stellar either. I hate to say that, but I wouldn’t want to give you bad advice.
I grew up in San Antonio, and it was a wonderful place to grow up, but now it is really big and sprawling. The traffic is much worse, and there seems to be a lot of road rage there. I think you can google which towns have the worst road rage in the US. It’s very hot and humid!
I lived in Austin for 7 yrs from 1982-89 finished undergrad and stayed on. It was a gorgeous place to live!!! I could get across town in 10 minutes at 4:45pm. NO more!! Traffic is terrible. Too many people. No parking. The infrastructure hasn't kept up with the growth. A friend lives just south of the river, and it can take her 45 minutes to go less than 2 miles from work to home. If any of the people i know who live there sold there homes, they couldn't afford to buy something else. Prices ridiculous.
Arizona is gorgeous. I couldn't handle the heat in the south, and I’m not interested in big cities.
I love where I am, and I wouldn’t want to be anywhere else. But being in my late 50s, I’m in a different place in my life than you are.
Best of luck finding the perfect place!!
Victoria Seale