Okay, another update! I've now gotten my original lender to look this over, she says the loan looks good but the problem is with my original loan. This is only an estimate and doesn't take into account the fact that I got Down Payment assistance to get the house. She tells me that in order to refinance, I would first have to repay that assistance. That adds to the closing costs!
Also, she believes this particular lender is reading the current FHA guidelines wrong. She says that my loan is asking for $145,882 but current guidelines say the limit for me is $143,382. That difference of $2,500 would also need to be paid at closing.
So, assuming all that's right, and I don't have any reason to believe it isn't, there are a lot of hidden fees here, not necessarily applied by the lender, but by the FHA guidelines themselves.
Of course, everyone has an opinion, she knows my particular situation better than most, so I tend to think she's correct. Let me know if this makes sense to you guys as well. Considering all this, having to pay that original down payment (about $5,000) and the difference in the allowable loan amount ($2,500) PLUS the first payment of about $1,040... all turns this into a $8,540 investment to save $80 per month.. it would take over 106 months, or just over 9 years to recoup those costs.. doesn't sound like such a good deal any more lol