@Account Closed
You've stated that you make your living by solving people's problems. Problems that began when they bought real estate. They're stuck with an illiquid asset and don't have time or for whatever reason are unable to offload it for what it's actually worth, so you capitalize on that. Meanwhile the S&P is up 10% YTD and savvy traders have easily made 20%. If they needed to liquidate their stocks they could do so with the click of a button. We see so many people on here desperate to park their money in RE: investing blindly in out of state turnkeys, negative cash flow appreciation gambles, overpriced dilapidated money pits, quitting perfectly good jobs to try wholesaling, etc., so many of them would be better off buying high dividend yield ETFs IMO.
Personally I try to avoid over simplified binary thinking like "Real Estate good so Stock Market bad". I do see your point however that REI has an advantage in being able to use other people's money, sweat equity, subject-to or other various niche expertise to build wealth from nothing. That seems to be the case for you personally, and congrats btw. But that doesn't mean that techniques don't exist to build wealth from nothing with other methods, including stocks. Essentially what you've done is built a business and RE happens to be your market. Why compare what you've done with investing in stocks when anyone can start a business in any field that they're uniquely qualified in and be successful even with a small initial investment?
You've had success in RE, but it didn't happen in 12 hours. You have probably invested many hours perfecting your craft with deals that broke even or even lost money. If you'd spent that time learning about stocks and ways to invest with little cash, you'd likely have found a way to be successful in stocks too.
If we're truly looking to compare stocks with real estate, every study I've ever seen has shown stocks beating real estate in average returns. Of course nobody wants to be average, everyone wants to hit the home run and beat the market. This is where people get in trouble, thinking they can out compete all the other sharks in RE or computers that run algorithms to trade stocks. With this in mind and knowing that RE is a lot more hands on, which is both more room for error and more time spent, then logic tells us that if one wanted to limit themselves to one or the other for whatever reason, and the goal was return on time invested, then stocks clearly win. I prefer both: 70% aristocrat stocks for truly passive income, 30% value-add long term buy and hold RE that has basically become my job. For people new to investing or looking for a truly passive investment I always recommend stocks first because buying an ETF is a lot harder to screw up than buying real property, as evidenced by the deals you're finding which you source from people who screwed up RE deals.
I guess I'm the yin to your yang: I don't think most people should jump in to REI unless they already have a robust stock portfolio providing substantial dividends and/or vast cash reserves so they can afford to dig themselves out when a sewage line clogs, a deranged tenant trashes a unit and has to be evicted, they miscalculate the ARV by more than their profit margin because they forgot to double their back of the napkin rehab budget, tariffs cause the price of lumber to double during permitting, or something expensive and unexpected inevitably goes wrong. Owning real estate is more expensive and prone to catastrophic failure than owning dividend stocks hands down in my experience.
Your post provides examples of how RE can be risky (all the people selling to you at a huge discount), and demonstrates how the investment class has become more exclusive over time (ability to buy the market/ save up for a down payment becoming less achievable using average wages), but you have not built a case for how investing in the stock market saps your wealth. Maybe the moderators can edit the title to "How investing in real estate saps your wealth".
That said, thanks for sharing your story and some of your secret sauce. This thread has been provocative which I suspect was your underlying intention.