Braden I feel your pain but unfortunately I don't believe the majority of people and businesses operate from a long term vision now or in the past. If they did the success rate of new businesses would be higher.
The barrier to entry to get into a real estate license and ESPECIALLY wholesaling which does not require a license is LOW. Full disclosure our house buying company wholesales hundreds of properties a year but i advocate that if you are to wholesale properties that they should be required to be licensed just to bring some regulatory oversight and make it just a smidge harder for people to get started.
Our wholesaling company is working really hard to grow large and train our client buyers and sellers to expect more from their wholesaler then "buyer beware" and a bunch of weasel clauses for sellers they are getting now.
For instance:
Every seller knows we are wholesaling and is given the option to list the house with us at a higher price
We guarantee our ARV and rent comps to our buyers
We own a construction company as well so we KNOW our rehab numbers and adjust quickly as prices adjust
We still take $3-$5k non refundable (unless we cant get clear title) from buyers and i know thats a source of contention for BP but as a business operator those deposits protect our sellers and ensure that whoever puts the money down is ready to close then. There are too many fake buyers in market to not a non refundable option fee to ensure the buyer is ready to go.
I know there are good arguments against the deposits, but so long as you are dealing with reputable companies the deposits are a non issue. But reputable being the key work....which goes back to my licensure argument for wholesalers.