All good replies. Thanks. I indeed am going to try and fix the "extended time" they tacked on (which i just found out about this morning). And no bankruptcy, just a default on a residential loan. The lawyer i had said to just do the foreclosure versus the short sale. I honestly don't blame him, he was working within the legal environment at the time.
I certainly also don't blame lenders for being wary either, i deliberately took my hit to come out ahead and more than succeeded. Trust me, considering the AMOUNT of people who lost their houses in the financial crisis, I am in a good place. I just find it funny that an industry that makes it money by lending wont lend to someone who has more than enough proof of good credit, history, and income.
WHAT I WOULD EXPECT...is "Yes, we will give you a HELOC, but because of your defaul you have a 12% interest rate" not, "NO" ;-)
As for the house, its $230K. I can certainly wait, but its an off market listing i wanted to jump on - plus, as a side note to add a little personal story...the house is for my aging mother to get her settled and out of an expensive rental unit. Yep, I am buying a house for my mom.