Quote from @Kristine O.:
I am upset to meet someone from Biggerpockets that I found to be rude. I recently posted in my forum about starting a team out of state specifically in San Antonio, tx. And this guy commented on my post. He also sent me a message. I was browsing his profile in BP but there’s not much activity. He has his own recorded youtube about him in his BP page that says he has been doing this for years that he does not only coach but he offers partnership with 100% financing from him. I decided to give him a call and I finally was able to talk to him. He said “tell me about yourself” and so i started telling about myself. In the middle he cut me out and said “so you reached out to me because you want a coach?” And i said yes. He started telling me what he does that hes not only a coach but a partner that he finances 100% of his deals blah blah and he said ‘it costs 15k to join our team is this what you want?’ And I said ‘well yeah i would like to learn but i dont have 15k’ and he sounded irritated cutting me again telling me ‘forget about the 15k Im asking you is this what you want?’ And of course i said well i want it but i don’t have that money and he asked again ‘is this what you want’ i just said ‘yes but not now’ and he just said ok thank you and we hung up. I’m like upset because Im trying to understand that most of the people here are experienced investors and I respect that you guys dont have time for any BS and would like to continue to invest but I don’t think there’s any need to be that aggressive if we newbies are undecided especially if it involves that big amount of money. We are not millionaires who have a lot of disposal money. We are not BSing either. If we have some amount to invest it’s from our hard work and we understand that there are risks involved in investing I just am not ready to pay 15k or installments to that amount for coaching yet. I would like to meet investors who are willing to be mentors who are a little kinder but with good intentions too. Good day all.
Hey Kristine,
I'm sorry that you had this experience, but it sounds like a positive one and also a great learning opportunity. It stood out to me that you said, "...I’m like upset because Im trying to understand that most of the people here are experienced investors and I respect that you guys dont have time for any BS...".
It comes across as putting others on a pedestal. Sure there are some people that are business geniuses, but they're very few and far between. And I also get that you may not be very confident just starting out, but you have value and worth and can learn to be just as good as anyone else. Most of us here are just persistent dummies, figuring it out and making it up as we go along like anyone else. I find this mentality more empowering than believing that there special people. Now there are more experienced people who may be short on time, but don't let one person get to you like that. In this business you deal with a lot of rejection, and just because 1 person/experience is bad doesn't mean that all are. As you go on your journey you're going to need to talk to many people, most of whom won't be a good fit. It's like dating, you have to kiss a lot of frogs. This comes up over and over again. Want to find a good lender? Need to talk to 15. Need a good partner? Meet 100 people and have deep convos. Etc. Trying to source discounted properties where you can "buy right"? Hundreds of convos and touch points. Some people are rude, or having a bad day. Water off of a ducks back. You're already great and getting better every day!
As far as this coach is concerned, you hit the jackpot. This person wasn't a personality fit for you (and/or not a business fit), but you learned this after 1 short call. Imagine if you'd have paid $15k only to later learn this fact. A quick no is a win. It frees you up to find the yes. As someone who has paid for coaching multiple times before, there are good people and programs out there. Don't get discouraged.
To re-cap, here are the lessons:
1. Most deals, people, and things are a bad fit for you.
2. Rejection is normal and not to be taken personally.
3. Getting to no quickly is ideal as it saves your most valuable resource, time.
4. We all started somewhere. What one person can do, another can do. There are no special people.
I hope that helps. This community is very helpful and kind, but not everyone in it is. You've got this!