"Run Your Own Race"
This is probably the most important thing I was taught at a young age. My mind really started to wrap around it when I was wrestling out in Washington, Pennsylvania at 17. For most of my wrestling career I was an underachiever. I had won a big tournament in N. Idaho a few weeks before but I think most would have thought that was a "fluke". I remember warming up in a back corner of a gym, it was late, there were only a handful of people there, and it would have been the perfect time to sandbag a match and have some fun with my buddies that night. Most all of them had already lost, and usually I liked the idea of fitting in with my friends. I remember this dilemma in my mind and at that point I made the choice that what other people were doing, really didn't matter. I wanted to win. I rattled off a few (4 or 5) 1 point wins in a row and made my way onto the podium. It was a pretty cool feeling to have control of my destiny, and chart my own course.
I have taken that with me through life. In the ups and downs I know that no one has control over my life but me. I have to make it happen. With every major choice I have made, there have been more than a fair share of critics. It usually makes me smile, and know that there is no one more capable of big things than me.