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Goals between now and end of 2025
- finish the last rehab on my last purchase. This starts tomorrow. My 22 year old son will be leading his second rehab and will be performing his first live-in rehab. This purchase will be up ~1m over purchase price after this rehab is done (3 sources: 1) purchase below value (or value add from addressing the rent issues - depends on your perspective) 2) value add from 4 class b+ unit rehabs 3) natural appreciation). ETC: February
- buy a high end home at a destination location. I suspect an offer is going out this week on a >3000’ cabin that Garth brooks used to record in. Needless to say it has nice finishes. We plan to turn the small recording room into a small office. If purchase this RE, ETC Mar 2024.
- convert new RE purchase to STR. ETC: if above cabin, May.
- determine how I can assist child in purchasing his own home in San Diego. I can buy investment RE but due to crazy bad DTI (far worse than 100 to 1, possibly approaching 500 to 1), I cannot get reasonable financing on an OO and not sure my co-sign will help on conventional financing. We likely need to look for local lender that is keeping loan in house. ETC Dec 2025.
- Son to have RE license and path to life he desires. This week he met a syndicator that has a lot of success (by a lot I mean lives in easy 8 digit home, local and in Detroit), but did not really know what to discuss or what to try to learn from him. It did give him a peek into what a kick a$$ syndicator can achieve.
- determine allocation of my last accelerated depreciation allowance and execute it. I have like $500k that needs something to allocate against. I do have stuff to allocate it, but picking which stuff to do will take some time. ETC Dec 31, 2024 (yes, 1 month).
I want at least 10 trips in 2025. I have many goals for my son, but my goals are not necessarily his goals.
Hope everyone has a great and successful 2025.
I have a son 2 years younger than your son… How did you go about moving your son along towards financial independence?
First I will say it can be trying at times.
My son was very motivated and succeeding in virtually everything until he was 16 years old. Then he became a demon child and made up for lost time in making his parent’s life hell. So I am not stating this was a panacea or easy.
We started him as a toddler helping. We let him go to design centers, etc and give his opinion since being a toddler. Around 8 years old I hired him as a gardener and let me tell you his early efforts looked like the work of a drunk gardener. I started him on handy man tasks. By the time he was 16, he had a half dozen part time employees and ads in paper to do various handyman stuff including hanging Christmas decorations, assembling ikea furniture, gardening, painting, building fences, etC.
Then came the demon child. He walked away from his business letting his best friend take it over. His virtual straight As became a lot less perfect. We tried counseling. Counselor called it the most extreme case of rebelling he had ever seen after initially questioning the issue due to our sons accolades/accomplishments. Our son still managed to get into his second choice of university (I am confident he would have got into his first choice without the demon years because even with the demon years both his gpa and sat where above the average for those accepted to Stanford). He graduated HS the Covid year which added to the difficulties.
Even though classes would all be remote, All of us were for sending him off to school and were thrilled when he won a lottery for the reduced capacity dorm. Then they further reduced the capacity of the dorm and we were thrilled when he got selected again. Then they decided to close the dorms to open university all together. Housing options were few. He found a place on del playa. The closest comparison would be bourbon street for college age kids, but bourbon street may need to up its game. Tough environment to focus on studies.
Our relationship was getting back on track but I had some resentment from the demon years.
2nd year similar to first. 3rd year was looking promising then University California TA strike. 3 years in and no way he could graduate in bio but could graduate in his hobby of German. So German it was.
What can he do with German? I wanted him to move into the unit he starts rehab today and rehab it when he moved back home but he is non committal because he has not decided between peace corps, teaching English in Europe, continuing his education in Europe, or RE.
Well he eventually decided RE but did not really understand many areas of RE. So he signs up for RE agent course. He leads his first rehab effort (which was also trying as he gets away with stuff that I would not tolerate from a regular protege). The rehab turned out good even if doing it was rough between us at times.
Today he starts on his second rehab. 3/3 of potential b+ unit in an A- area (pt Loma). Today is demo day. Kitchen and most flooring hopefully will be out by tonight.
It has not been easy. There have definitely been some bumps. He knows what is possible via RE. He has some idea of our success via RE. This week he did some work at a very successful local syndicator’s house but did not do great (understatement) at trying to get valuable insight. I think the biggest take away was the level of success possible (this guy’s home is worth ~$20m).
I know other local RE investors well enough to potential ask that they take on my child’s continuing RE education and I think it would be in both of our best interests. My hope is by end of next year he has a local small MF value add house hack (probably will cost ~$1m so it will be a challenge).
Clearly I did not sugar coat the path (except I suspect demo child does not fully convey the true extreme of his behavior; the police knew our address without being told).
All is good that ends well.
Good luck