Thanks for the reply Jeff!
Let me expand just a bit on the equity point, its something I have considered but did not dive into in the original question (trying to keep it somewhat concise). I am paying rent, it was ~$1000/mo but is going up to ~$1250 in a couple months. And it does bother me that I build no equity with the rent going out the window, etc.
That said, I'm also a bit concerned about how much equity can be built in the near term if I were to buy. Of that $2500 or so monthly cost for the house close to $1000 is going to taxes and insurance, and keeping in mind how amortization favors interest first I think it would be fair to say that in the first 2-3 years I am not going to build much equity. This would be fine if some appreciation was a reasonable expectation, but I think we have a decent chance at very flat appreciation given how wild the last 2 years were.
And of course that would not be especially concerning if I intended to stay longer term but I think there is a good chance I end up moving in the next 2-3 years, and I would want to convert to a full rental at that point. Of course I can keep building equity as a full rental, but with the properties I am seeing the yield on the down payment is going to be low.
Dave Meyer's numbers definitely shed some light on the 1% rule, and I think he makes a good point. However what I find even more telling than that is his top 10 markets for cash flow, most are rustbelt towns that are about the polar opposite of my area, which makes me think that what I am seeing might not be too far off the mark.