Hi @Jose Vazquez congrats on taking the plunge, the process is sometimes daunting, stressful, long, lonely, BUT WORTH IT. As others said, starting out, especially in pricier markets such as the DMV, if liquidity and excess cash isn't your strong point, you must first address your financial situation. Frugality is great, but hard, especially when you are caring for 2 others, wife and kids. Yes, you can cut out certain luxuries, but others you cannot. So here are my suggestions:
1.) If you can utilize the VA Loan to get into a condo, as long as the purchase is a good buy, yes you should do this, especially if you are paying a large amount in rent and can reduce your monthly $$$ that is going out.
2.) With that excess that you are saving on mortgage to rent, put into a separate account and start saving that for your downpayment on your first and next investment property.
3.) Any excess $$ that you do save by cutting certain luxuries out, put into this account as well, again saving for your first and next investment property.
4.) My personal favorite, utilize hard work: With any extra time that you may have, pick up another side hustle that can generate extra income. And again, put into this account saving for your first and next investment property, maybe Uber?
These are just 3 simple ideas and ways to start saving $$ now, but know they aren't the only 3.
Good luck!