So as a wife, I can see where she's coming from. My husband (@Nicholas Paros) and I are both building our real estate portfolio while working full time W2 jobs. We are putting all of our profits back into the business, but plan to pull them out to live on when we need to contribute more time to property management or we can live completely on our rental income and still have money left over to invest into more real estate.
It sounds like your wife feels like she's not part of your plan. Like 'Yay, you get to live your dream and do real estate, but I'm here hating my life.' She feels like she's at the short end of the stick.
I work 4 days a week right now, my husband works 5. Would I love to work 3 days, 2, even be done? With a toddler, yes. Definitely. But that would be selfish. We're in this together and I'd much rather my husband be able to take a small step back before I stopped working. We're sharing the stress load, it's easier to bare that way.
I understand wanting to grow as quickly as possible, but you should know that your marriage is the most important thing. So much more important than money.
What if you paid yourself enough to cover your wife going part time? That way, she feels taken care of and you're going back to a place of an "us" plan. I will add that there is a difference between reinvesting your profits and allowing your lack of profits to be masked by "reinvesting in the company."
She needs to feel heard. She wants to be part of the team. Part of the plan.
It's not fair for you to have all the joy and for her to have all the burden. You're a team. Make her part of it.