I'm more of a reader then a poster with my 12yr old writing style, but I've felt this dilemma myself.
The conclusion I came to is, there's no right or wrong as long as your following the laws in your location. That said it's your business and you get to make the choices that are right for you. I don't look at thinks like the other person has to loose for me to win.
My examples ,
4-5 years ago I was out mowing my lawn, my neighbor of 8-10 years came out to b/s and let me know he was going to sell because he couldn't afford his house any longer. He was very upset about the whole thing.
I ended up buying his house and renting it back to him cheap for 18 months. I got a lower purchase price he got cheap rent to save up for a new place to live. I went into that deal knowing I'd be burning negavite cash flow for at least 18 months, but the amount negative added to what I was paying still had me making a deal on the place, it was a great return on investment in the form or equity, outside of all the other advantages to rental property. This is a house that is vintage 1985 with a single old man living in it. Can you smell it? =)
The real value add is the remodel on this place, but I don't really need the value add until I sell. When I take the current mortgage and refi in the repairs to get it up to top of the market of course the payment goes up.
It ends up from a cash flow point of view I can rent it to him for probably less then market and have about the same cash flow with the rehab/re-rent. So he pays a reduced rent he can afford that cash flows for me about the same and I don't have to spend the money on the rehab. It's really a win win at this point, he's been my neighbor for over a decade and I like the ole coot =)
I'm probably fooling myself a little on the cash flow difference, but like I said I like the ole coot. It's been a set it and forget it situation and not messing with it has allowed me to pursue other opportunities. I have a huge value add situation sitting there on my books, there's worse things =)
Some would argue that it's a value loss deal for me by not kicking him out and remodeling it, I view it as a value add, during the time I would of needed to remodel it I was off buying a foreclose that was a full remodel that's done and re-rented, ti was a big value add. And instead of having one house in that time I actually have two with one still having a lot of upside just sitting there. That from overall standpoint was a way better deal for me.
2nd example
earlier this year I bought a duplex, nasty dirty kinda place but tons of good potential upside when rehabbed. One side the tenants had been in there for 12yrs with no rent increase, the other they'd been in there 20yrs.
My plan was to buy it, evict, rehab, re-rent at market. Then I started messing with the math. Turns out that If I don't do a full remodel, saving that expense and raise the rents to a certain point the cash flow is close to the same. (I'm trying to be shorter and less rambley) So we fix the parts of the place that were hurting itself (5k) and put the current tenants on a scheduled rent raise over 9 months, I had the funds on reserve if one of both moved out. I took some negative cash flow to start and now have positive cash flow. I ran the math to make sure it made sense, and it did. Today I have a duplex that runs to the positive side with long term tenants, I've left the value add in for another day. I don't really need the equity until I sell. I now have two really good value add plays that I already own for me to do in the future. When I really can't find another deal, I'll already have one on my books. Make sense?
3rd example
a few months ago I found a great deal on a duplex, a great value add through rehab. The numbers were looking good! But as we walked through the property and talked to the tenants the whole place was rented to one big poor family, I'm guessing like 4 generations, were talking about a lot of people in this place, from elderly great grand parents down to lots of little kids running around. The place was a total dump, I'm not afraid of dumps I've rehabbed several at this point. The return on investment was good leaving it how it is, and lots of value add kicking them out rehabbing and re-renting for market. It would of been a real good one.... But here's the rub, I don't want to own slum houses, old is ok but not slum with bunk beds in the living room and little kids living in filth. I grew up like that, I don't want to own places like that, not for me... And I don't want to be the one who kicks this huge multi generation poor family out, It's not something I want to be responsible for doing...
So what did I do? I walked away, I let that one go.
Opportunity is really never ending in my view, I figure I take the one's that are right for me and walk away from the rest.
As long as your following the law, In my view it's not a religious question, or a moral question. It's really a what do I want to do with my time? With real estate there's just so many ways to make money pick the one's that are right for you, leave the rest.
As you can see, typing spelling grammer etc. is my worst skill set
sorry if it hurt your eyes =)
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