Death in the family. How soon is too soon?

[Bert P.]

Hi All, friends of mine just lost lost their mother/mother-in-law a few days ago after a prolonged illness. My question is: Since there will never be a "good time" to bring it up, is there a "too soon" time to start investigating and asking questions about what may happen with the home? I know that there are several strategies that could be employed here under varying circumstances, but I don't want to come off as a ghoul, taking advantage of someone still grieving.

Whether a personel friend or family member or someone I've never met, is there a best, "good time"?

If any of you have been in this situation or a similar one I would love to get your opinion. Thanks in advance for any advise you may have.

[Timothy W.]

If it were me I'd probably talk to the child in law and just keep it brief. Tell them, "Hey, when the time is right, I do deal in real estate and can help you guys with the house. Now's not the right time but when it is, if I can help just let me know." They know their spouse better than you do and will know when it's time to talk business.