Female Property Inves./Landlord on the verge of leaving the busn

[Deisy P.]

Female Property Investors/Landlords. I need your advice. If you are doing this on your own. By that, I mean, no male figure next to you that is your father, boyfriend, husband, brother, cousin. If you have none of these people by your side and you are in this business, I really need your advice because I'm on the verge of selling everything. It has all come to be so stressful, being taken advantage of, imposter syndrome. I don't want to play the victim card but I don't know if this is a sign to head in another direction. If you are or have been in the same position at one time please let me know what you've done to stick with it or if indeed you did move on, what was it. Thanks.

[Jill F.]

@Deisy P. I am married and my husband and I are in this business together. We've been married for 30 years and having a great life partner is a gift. So I'm not in the same situation you are in. However, this buy and hold real estate business is my baby. If you enjoy the work and are making money and are thinking of quitting primarily because of self doubt or the actions of unscrupulous business associates, I would encourage you to find an experienced mentor so you have someone to bounce ideas off of and give you another perspective when you aren't sure about a particular issue. Make use of the BP forums to get those second opinions and erase that self-doubt. Feel free to DM me anytime.

You are in a long line of women that have persevered in spite of obstacles. People forget how it use to be not that long ago. When My mother graduated from high school and got a job, she could be fired for getting pregnant. She could not get credit without her husbands permission until I was a teenager (1974). I was in the first generation of (middle class) women that got an opportunity to go to college and choose any career I wanted. But the fact that I could get a job as an engineer, didn't mean that everyone believed I was just as competent as the next "guy." I worked as a software engineer for most of my working career and spent a fair amount of time as one of the few females in the room. Things were better for me than they were for my mother and better, in general for women when I left than when I started, my granddaughters will hopefully work in a more equitable environment than I did. My grandmother worked in the cotton mills in Alabama, where it was a curse to be a pretty girl if you needed a job. When I interviewed as a programmer at a mill after college my step-grandmother warned me off about the old man that was interviewing me; he had a "reputation"; The "me too" movement, I think shocked the many decent men who had no idea that there is such a sizeable minority of predatory scum bags that women deal with on a regular basis.

Don't let someone else's bad behavior keep you from doing something that you really want to do.