Wife to a new RE agent...need advice/help...PLEASE!

[Tiffany W.]

My husband and I have been married almost 10 years.  No kids yet but we hope to have a family, Lord willing.  Hubby is 43 I am 39.  He has been bartending for years and years and the schedule was incredibly hard for a vibrant family life, so he took the plunge and got his RE license and is 2 months now working with a RE team.  He chose real estate because he desperately wanted a job where he felt like he was making a big difference for people.  He is FABULOUS with people and lives with integrity and is extremely genuine and warm.  I am very proud of him and have done all I can to be supportive.  He deserves success...however...he is gone a ridiculous amount of time and I see him less now than I did when he was bartending full time (He still bartends Friday and Saturday nights).  I have read so many articles about balancing RE with family life and they all say that you MUST schedule family time, period.  My husband does NOT enjoy being away so much.  We are absolute best friends so it has been difficult for us both.  I guess my question is this:  Should scheduling family time take a back seat when starting out or should you start out scheduling family time because it is a healthy habit you should adopt right from the start?  I want him to succeed and I want to be supportive.  That's why I want expertise from those of you that have been there.  You can shed light on what he should do/expect as a first year RE agent. I should also add that I owned a business with an ex-husband who was a workaholic.  That did not end well.  Obviously I am gun shy because of that experience.    Guidance/advice would be so appreciated!

[Sterling Williams]

It reads as though you may be feeling a little deprived of his attention. It's important to be as supportive as possible and understand that his new endeavor is time consuming and and will take much of his time at the beginning (especially while working a second job)... Honestly, I think you're going to have to come to terms with the fact that your time together will decrease until he can supplement his 2nd jobs income with his earnings from real estate...  I'm honestly puzzled by the question considering there are no children involved.  Plan a date night every once in a while and you should be fine.