For what it's worth, I'd estimate my yearly expenses in Hawaii at a reasonable $60k per annum.. this includes eating out for 80-90% of meals, driving a lowish mpg car with full coverage insurance, and 2-3 international trips to Asia per year.Now, not sure who you were talking to that needed to work 3 jobs to earn $60k/year. 1 or 1.5 modest jobs could surely cover that!

I laughed internally and said I'll let you know if I need your services.  

The Pentagon says the ballistic missile flew 1,000 miles higher than NASA’s International Space Station.

However, the building needs to meet the International Residential Code, the energy code, and be permitted through the city (Planning, building, fire, Civil, etc.).

So basically I think that yes you were not done any favors, kept in the dark and pushed out about 3 weeks from closing, I think deciding if you want to remain with that agent etc or working with their broker are good internal conversations for your family to have.

I know when buying certain retail centers if an EPA issue is present the lender instead of their regular source of funds from the Fed bank they might have to fund internally on a property.

Nothing really changed internally except the goals you had and the level of commitment, you understood value and saw that in the feast times there was a better way to provide for yourself in the lean times. 

I'm getting slightly nervous looking at current valuations/the current state of international politics, so I'm not really looking to add more money to my ETF positions unless the market moves sideways for a couple months.

I would say most analyse with Cap rate, Cash on Cash, Internal Rate of Return (IRR).

Good international airport that has multiple nonstop flights to various major cities( Seattle is not yet included but surely will be if Amazon picks the city).