I am not sure where to begin. with your septic and well you'll need to do site layout first with a land planner or the county. after that you'll need to check setback requirements and design plans and start budgeting with a builder. once you have a confirmed plan set and budget broken down and builder selected then you can talk to banks. most people think it starts with banks 

I read a lot of books, went to workshops, and looked for advice from people who had already been through the problems I was having.

Message people and request to be friends - this is a great way to start building relationshipsCheers!

We are currently working with our lawyers to take next steps and get our money back along with damages due to wasted time and investments we missed out on along with other people who they have done this too.

Some people have had good results with GURU  trained, most have not.

In general, when you paste a good deal make sure to provide as much of the information as possible or people will start treating you as a scammer.

The ones I have in my home require cleaning and maintenance, and I have my doubts about people keeping up with it.

I’ve seen a bunch of posts here over the past six month on BP where people seem to be betting big money (some call it investing) based purely on someone’s charm and word.

Attend meetups and meet as many people in RE as you can. 

I don't personally utilize this strategy, but many other people do so successfully so you might look into that.