Then I would follow up with a 1031 qualified intermediary to ensure each step doesn't violate any rules and follow up with a CPA who understands real estate to compute the tax implications. 

Are you trying to flip or househack, they are two completely different skill sets. 

Since I'm gainfully employed and have quite a bit of savings I don't qualify.

Since I have renting experience (which I've read is a qualifying factor to be able to use projected rent income towards DTI) will I be able to use that towards my next multi I plan to do an FHA on?

Surprisingly strong response with 12 inquiries within a few hours and 3 qualified applicants to choose from after an open house that had 8 groups turn out.

Those are both ruses commonly used by sketchy tenants trying to fast-talk their way into your rental when they otherwise wouldn't be qualified.

and am i really the most qualified person to be the CEO of this business, or is it better to hold someone else accountable and I can go do what I would rather be spending my time on..It is like instead of buying a ticket on an airplane to go on vacation to Hawaii, you take flying lessons and learn to fly to do it yourself...

In almost all these cases none of the individuals qualify on their own under our 3x gross income guidelines but together they do.

Was curious how one may qualify/ be able to see receive these grants?

The key to the 1031 is that you have to use a 3rd party qualified intermediary to manage the 1031 process.