I cut out the middleman.I have started accepting Zelle which is an instant transfer, is free and is supported by all the major banks.

He is putting in the land which is free and clear and under his name and where we plan to build the first spec home.

The bank isn't going to cut you a check. 

maybe thats just me ....but my $.02 would be to make CLEAR expectations of each other. what do you help them with?

So, that won’t help.Even if they cut 1-2%, that won’t make up $8,000 on a house of this price.At the end of the day, as an investor, you have to have a walk-away price when you make an offer.

You will most likely have more success mailing to property owners who own free and clear of debt.

When people forget I cut them from the list.

The house has been on the market for over 170 days and the last price cut was in January. 

@Joseph M. hey, so the situation is this person that sold me the property is an investor that unloaded many properties in the United States a few years ago when she got sick. she is elderly now and needed to unload the properties in Mexico and really wanted to do it asap . we spoke about the deal for months and at the last minute she cut our original price by 1/4. she saw I was committed after I got my dual citizenship and I know she was trying to help me out.  

I see a lot of posts and hear on podcasts from people who did live through it as investors and they clearly learned a lesson they will never forget and consequently they are successful today.