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A couple hundred dollars a month extra cash sounds like it might help her, but at a minimum it will encourage her.  

It sounds like this may one you need to walk away from and chalk it up to education/lesson learned if you are bleeding that badly.

It even sounded like the director of the SDIRA would be the one contacting people to do repairs if needed.

Not sure why would anyone give them a second chance unless you are a slumlord or abusing the government rent support system which it sounds like you are considering. 

Since that is the option for you it sounds like, take the deduction now, get at least the company match, and let the funds grow tax free.  

The situation sounds like a planned re-trade. 

@Travis Schmidt, first I would carefully evaluate the repairs and the costs because that sounds like an EXTREME amount of damage based on those amounts.

Yep, sounds familiar  :-) ....That's what we get for not going inside a property before buying it!

Sorry if I read too much in btwn the lines your initial post sounded like you're worried.