Now that I am a single father with joint custody to my 2 children I have been bit by the REI bug really bad.

Unfortunately, I'm not sure where to turn for this specific kind of incident.If I wanted a divorce/custody lawyer I'd have been done with my search in 5 minutes. 

The fella upstairs is completely drunk most of the time and on this particular night was a custody exchange with his ex and their kids .

Does he have custody?  

In most cases the female will keep primary custody of the kid, which can result in the male being the one to move if they were to bicker again.  

I believe Provo’s ordinance reads (Provo Code 14.06:)"“Family,” unless otherwise expressly provided in this Title means:(a) One (1) individual living alone; or(b) One (1), but not more than one (1) at the same time, of the following groups of individuals described in subsections (i), (ii), or (iii) who together occupy a one-family dwelling unit as one (1) nonprofit housekeeping unit and who share common living, sleeping, cooking and eating facilities:(i) A head of household and:(A) All persons related to the head of household as a parent, child, grandparent, grandchild, brother, sister, uncle, aunt, nephew, niece, great-grandparent or great-grandchild by blood, marriage, adoption, guardianship, or any other duly authorized custodial relationship; and(B) Not more than two (2) additional related or unrelated persons, including but not limited to, personal care or personal service providers; or(ii) In R1 zones located within neighborhood areas described in Subsection (c) of the definition of “baching singles” in this Section, two (2) related or unrelated individuals and any children of either individual, if any; or(iii) In all other zones, three (3) related or unrelated individuals and any children of either individual, if any."

Then when I told them I could just use my initial they relented.I work for a custodial bank and the clients are very private.

For that you need a specialty company known as "Facilitator" who will coordinate the establishment of the IRA custodial account and will take care of the creating of special purpose LLC, which is a central piece of the Checkbook IRA.

These are legacy personalities who have finger prints all over the old lead ordinances.https://www.toledoblade.com/local/police-fire/2020/06/30/Federal-agents-take-Toledo-city-council-members-into-custody-amid-bribery-probe/stories/20200630090Here's the article for anyone who didn't read it yet (the 40 page indictment is heady stuff, there are two years of improper action that's been documented by the FBI). 

Also divorced, have a 12 year old son, 50/50 custody.Basically - the divorce and subsequent custody fights in court with an ex-wife who keeps trying to take away my 50/50 time have taken their toll financially.