I’ve seen a number of deals where a Roth buys an option on a “financial friend’s” rehab for $1,000.

If it's been longer than 7 years, you might just leave 'em.I recommend Dave Ramsey's Total Money Makeover to get your financial house in order. 

I'd still offer slightly lower, but here is my financial situation:-Currently paying $1600/mo on my personal home-I have $12k in cash, $8k in taxable investment accounts I can liquidate, I also have ~$30k in an Roth IRA.

There are times when we don't mind working with new remote investors, but they would be in a much different financial stratosphere than where you are today. 

Second, Urban Land Institute publishes a number of books that go into various aspects of development. 

As George mentioned, you will have to work with solo 401 K providers like mysolo401k, broad financial, total control financial and many others.I moved my SDIRA money last year to solo 401K and I have full control now.

I'm a single mom, still living with my own mother, and looking to strike out on my own officially and be financially independent.

You'll have honor the financial terms of their lease but you should be able to change to the "behavior" parts of your lease.

Our dream is to become financially independent by 30!

., you should easily qualify for a $100k HELOC or more if your financial situation is tight.