I can think of a couple of seemingly great reasons to stay in the deal, which would be 1) they'd get a portion of the rent we'd be paying to live there (again, I assume this would be split 2:1:1), and 2) if we live in the house for a couple of years, couldn't we sell it tax-free, since we would be owner-occupants?

Staying Flexible in NegotiationsAs agents, licensees are bound by ethical and legal rules that may limit how they negotiate or market deals.

I also prefer to screen the guests and set my own price/stay restrictions.

If you're an accredited investor putting in 6 figures, they might take care of you better, but otherwise I would completely stay away from them.

And Stay consistent, wholesaling takes time, but the more deals you look at, the better you get.As a fellow wholesaler working to build strong relationships and find good deals, I can tell you that being honest, doing your research, and staying patient is the key.

I'm an investor and mortgage broker and have options for loans that go as low as $75,000 and down payments as low as 15%, which makes it easier to stay above $75,000.

It is surprisingly easy to manage out of state and if you want more tips on how, check out Bigger Pockets book "30 Day Stay" on Mid Term Rentals. 

If you're just getting started, stay local.

I know what my ideal life looks like in ten years, unfortunately, I don’t feel like I can have my ideal life now because I am having to stay in the state that I am in until we can move without risk of my husband losing custody of his child, which will be in about 10 years so believe it or not I do spend a lot of time thinking about what I want the future to be like.

not a problem. all you have to do is stay consistent.