I’m mostly away from home and that leaves my wife and my three children all by themselves. 

Many would be receiving some financial assistance from their children as well.

I'm married with three children with two of those in college. 

Usually they test you like children, even the good ones.

You might consider teaming up with a mortgage broker to share the cost.The list criteria should include Renters, age 30-50, Income $70,000 plus, high Financial Stability Score and with that many bedrooms I'd add in families with children.

We are personally comfortable being renters as it suits our frequent moves, but I can't help but feel like we could really optimize certain advantages like BAH, and VA/TSP loans with the right amount of research.The problem is we don't really have the time or interest to be long-distance landlords, and with very young children (and more on the way) the immediate time suck of rehabbing and the home chaos of living in a place under construction (if we went the BRRRR route) is almost completely out of the question. 

Currently a portion of all of our tenants rent goes to the Children's Hunger Alliance in Ohio.

and do you put the names of the children on the lease as minors or just mention two children in a general way?

Technically, that’s no longer a renewal - that’s a renegotiation of the contract and had we known we would’ve accepted another offer.The whole thing is bizarre, I have a sense they have an agenda they’re not disclosing because at this price range, with kids enrolled in great private schools nearby, our experience has been the opposite - families wanting to lock the house down at their sole option for x years at x price.The arguments the tenants presented are very bizarre as well (what if lightning strikes the house, or I decide to adopt 4 children and need more rooms, what if I need laser surgery only available in Europe).

The extra $10 is our pita feeThere is no reason not to hold tenants responsible, they are not children but often must be treated that way.Each tenant being held responsible may help but if not you at least get your money back.