I would also advise to read Jack Canfield, 7 Habits of Highly Effective people, The Happiness project, Richest Man in Babylon, How to win friends and influence people, think and grow rich, the greatest salesman in the world.

Find a problem, then offer a solution to the problem...if you need them to carry paper and they need all cash, it is not a win win, and move on to the next deal.  

You will have to wait for it to get listed and then try to win the contract on the property.  

Slow and steady wins the race.

The "winning" bid will go to the bank and if it does not meet the reserve they will counter with a much higher one. 

My questions is, can this be done so its a win win for both of us, and how would the terms of the contract be?

I prefer the slow and steady get rich, as compared to trying to win a lottery every month, but again some folks can do it. 

Many times I got the due diligence paperwork after winning an initial bid only to find out it was a CFD or actually re performing instead of performing.

When (if) I win the bid, I take the receipt over to the property and knock on the door to let the occupant know who the owner is.

Try to make it a win win if you can, but if it is going to be a win lose situation. make sure your not the one losing.