Include a lender in your conversations that specializes in working with investors.  

Another key benefit is diversification; an SDIRA allows you to include real estate in your portfolio, reducing risk by spreading your investments across different asset types, which isn’t possible with a standard IRA.Moreover, assets in an SDIRA often enjoy protection from creditors, adding a layer of security to your investments.

Hey there,Let's say I have $1M worth of stocks including my 401k.

And when it comes unraveled, implications CAN BE extreme, INCLUDING jail/prison time for it. 

Politely and clearly, make it extra clear that all information will be verified including income prior to the signing of any lease.  

Some of my frustrations include:- Zero transparency on where my funds were being invested.

Common fees will include a set-up fee, a leasing fee for each turnover or a lease renewal fee, marking up maintenance, retaining late fees, and more.

Typically this takes 6–9 months, including 2–3 months for permitting and 4–6 months for construction.You can browse their current plans online, with design costs ranging from a few hundred to close to $2,000: ADU Fast Track Plans2.

Include text so that states what will happen if the new lease isn't signed by landlord and husband such as the return of keys by all parties date.

Clearly define terms, including an exit strategy, buyout options, and how proceeds will be split.