I love building relationships and helping new investors meet the right people.

Should you double close while building a relationship with a new buyer or should you always double close?

If you want to do this without financing the property yourself, you MUST know who the cash buyer investors are in that area and build a relationship with them.  

But @Nick Stango doesn't have that proof, and you're telling him to potentially completely tarnish his relationships with two wholesalers based off of speculation, and he almost definitely could ruin those valuable relationships by just going to the seller to gather information.

Most lenders will require the "live in the home for one year" in order to qualify for their programs, but there are some instances where you can develop a relationship with a local back, show them the numbers if they are rock solid, and try to work a deal.

I am  currently working part time sub contracting cable t.v. splicing.Between 1998 and 2007 I did four small real estate deals and managed to make a profit on each deal, During that period I had some money, great credit and a very good working relationship with a local bank.

What do you say, how do you approach, how do you develop a good business relationship with such an owner?

True private money lenders  (as opposed to hard money lenders who call themselves private money lenders) are personal relationships.  

I am in the Charlotte, NC market and I am obtaining relationships with buyers who have different kinds of criteria which I keep in my for potential opportunities. 

Develop relationships with the attendees and vendors, followup, then followup some more.Finally, and most important-- take action!