isn't realistic.Of course, the bank could use your offer to define a higher value for the property and subsequently not accept the lower offer based on the value, but that's completely different than the bank accepting your offer for the seller.

The only job of the Trustee is to get the best price for their client who is the Lien holder foreclosing on the property and then subsequently complete the transaction by collecting funds and filing the foreclosure deedThe Trustee has zero responsibility to make sure bidders aren't colluding(other than verifying funds) or ensuring the title is clear 

As far as other maintenance expenses, as a landlord you're typically expected to fix whatever breaks on the property (e.g. sliding glass doors, screens, ceiling fans, light switches, faucets, leaky plumbing, garbage disposal rusts out, leaky toilet, garage door doesn't open, electrical issues, etc.)

If there was no damage I would let the dog slide but now I might have to replace the bed skirt.

Slides from an old presentation. 

I flipped residential so its not scary.6 are for sale now, 3 from original owner and 3 from some subsequent owner.

The sale of your existing property and subsequent 1031 Exchange into land with a corresponding build-out of a multi-family property is referred to as an Improvement 1031 Exchange or a Build-To-Suit or Construction 1031 Exchange. 

I pay on a sliding scale(with a min floor), make sure they aren't managing 50 properties +, and remind them this is a customer experience. 

It depends.There are areas where if you start where you live you might be stuck on buying any subsequent deals.

Or, let it slide as lesson learned.