I wanted to gage whether it was normal for them to share my information. 

On the surface what I normally see in these cases are Real Estate agents that disappear after the sale because they comped the rent value too high, followed by an inexperienced PM that has a hard time explaining WHY the rent price is too high, and finally an investor that put his trust in all the wrong people to achieve their goals. 

We have never done one of these and i dont want to muck it up..Normally we do use our attorney and work with him to cover the leg work so costs are a bit lower... however hes moved on (away from SC)  And the replacement attorney is a little less attentive ( prob cause we have not closed 30 deals with him ..lol)  He is also not interested in helping out the buyer...

Normally that would take less than 60 days but we're in the "new normal" where justice no longer exists, particularly in a state like NJ, and you can expect to run into additional hurdles and delays.As you're evicting them, they may decide to steal all the kitchen cabinets, smash the toilets and windows, dump paint on the flooring, and other fun tricks.

My fourth property seemed like a reach since I may have overpaid for it during the purchase price, but had a normal rehab budget.

IE… 200K stock income (treated as normal income), 200k w2, 50K consulting. 450K loss from cost seg

The lenders want a lot of skin in the game and want to make sure they are kept whole and any losses are yours.

Normally, lenders will look at your personal finances to make sure everything is kosher. 

Both are crucial in todays market and for you to bounce ideas off of and normalize your underwriting numbers. 

As depreciation is the more normal way.