Much of what we read, such as "10 Steps How to Make a Million Dollars in Real Estate in Less Than Six Months" or various similar "carrots" that get dangled infront of us, is deceiving in terms of how hard it is, how long it takes, how frustrating and lonely real estate can be.

Similar to the BRRRR strategy?

My husband and I had almost the exact similar journey in to real estate that you did; beginning to "Rich Dad Poor Dad" and eventually ending up at BP! 

looking for advice, posted something similar in reddit personal finance and got no help and a ton of judgement Me and my brothers have about 95k to split from our father, his kind of get started in life money.

@L S I have also seen mention on hear of using a method where it sounds 'similar' to a 1031 but the facilitator hold the property for YEARS (I think determined by the seller/buy) and makes yearly payments to the seller. 

If that’s not possible, it’s not a deal.We always look for 6-9% CoC and 15% IRR, a refi in 2-3 years and an exit in 5-7 years.A few subjective thoughts on the current general multifamily real estate situation: I see similar signs on the wall as in 2008.

I am in a similar boat as you, looking for my first rental, a multi family.

Seller carries a note similar to a conventional loan ( x% down payment, y% interest rate, 15/30 year mortgage) 2.

The cost was more than 3X the cost with my current insurance on a similar property and the guy sounded inconvenienced the entire time we spoke. 

@Eileen Murray provides excellent advice: take a day or two to observe similar cases.