I have read, to date, two books on it.

So I have read that you can not rent to a family member on section 8.

That is where if you do not like the way some language reads then your attorney gets involved.

If you plan correctly, this money can be free...yes, you read that correctly...FREE.

No major experience in real estate besides my own research and reading books.

I'm reading, listening, searching and educating myself about all things REI, but I'm still a newbie.

Then I started looking into the BRRR method but after reading some reviews about the hard mongley lenders I’m not sure if that is the way I want to go anymore.

The first question that came to my mind, when I read your post (other than @J Scott's post, which was really what I was thinking) was "If this family has that many millions to invest, why do they need you in the first place?"

The issue, as previously mentioned, is that a bank’s underwriter won’t be able to justify (read: approve) you and your spouse using both of your VA loans to owner-occupy two separate properties at the same time unless you were stationed at two different duty stations.What we’ve seen in the past is where a client of ours will buy a quad (4-unit) with their VA loan, occupying one of the units and then in 12 months or so either use their VA loan for a second time or their spouses for the first time to buy the next multi-family or SFR.

I just started to read some books, because i  like to read, and maybe i will learn something valuable.