Its a struggle.

Even looking at the balanced rate (which I feel like is hard because the terms are different) along with the potential to have the monthly payment/fees covered, it feels like a cash out is a better option if we did want to keep this.Part of the current struggle is that the market was hit harder from the rate increase so sales are almost at a standstill and even with trying to sell the house, the rental market is doing substantially better because most military cannot afford to purchase in this area as the payments are over 6k/mo for buying vs 3-4k/mo for renting.Any advice is most appreciated!

Even if the numbers look good, without these two you'll struggle to have success.

The problem is you do have to fund it heavily to get it there, so it can be a struggle for those without a lot of capital available. 

Like most, I have the lists and means to reach the struggling person who I have identified desperately needs my help and without question I believe I offer a solution. 

Normally this may be where I suggest passive RE options such as a limited partner in a syndication, but in the last couple of years many syndications are struggling..

Dealing with the problems themselves is one thing, but I'm really struggling to not collapse emotionally.

On some days, I struggle to understand my own. :) Generally, not unlike contractors, we do what we are hired/paid to do.

You'll get a nice paycheck immediately, and you'll learn more in two years working for them than you would struggling to build a business on your own.

There's a lower barrier of entry but I've had my share of struggles with being 2000 miles away which Nicholas and Jake referenced in my long previous post.