I have been looking on realtor.com and I am having trouble finding a relatively decent deal that will net me a healthy cash flow.

This stuff is stressful and it sometimes consumes me.

You have some cash and some equity.. great start and that kind of position can certainly be leveraged into a healthy real estate portfolio over time.   

However with 2 kids under 2 and as-of-yet reluctant family, I've been reflecting on my skill set on how I can add value to a more experienced investor without  consuming all of my free time not being home.I can do just about any DIY project but so can any joe-blow looking to be a handy man. 

Putting a deal together is very time consuming and many people are happy to compensate someone to take charge of all these tasks.

I'm guessing your responsibilities are light at this stage in your life, health is good.My own personal hourly rate is $50, meaning if I can pay someone less than $50 an hour to do any task in my life, then I am paying them, because my time is more valuable.

Unless you work in a very time-consuming field (doctor or lawyer), you can definitely manage it yourself. 

It would be time consuming, but getting the right fit is (as you've discovered) very valuable. 

It’s very time consuming going through guys and takes experience in how to ask the right questions and weed out tons of other calls.

.:   My followup question:   With the 2018 tax law changes, if the refinanced capital pulled out were used for some consumer/non-investment purposes, then is the interest expense on the new loan still tax deductible against the property's income?