THese people were very qualified and i am okay with being reasonable but how do I not loose out on money and not make this complicated?  

So, in general this is far more complicated of a question, but if you have ALL the information someone may be able to help you navigate this a little better. 

The property LLC allows for customization of every deal (vice forming  LLC that hold Title to each property).Having a multi-member LLC for each pair of you might be a bit overkill, but can be useful if you plan on getting into more complicated structures. 

No need to over complicate things.

I think many people put unnecessary pressure on themselves to get financially free quickly or learn all these different strategies that they forget that just buying and holding a handful of properties will create a ton of equity one day when they are all paid off. 

I realize this gets a bit complicated and looking for any feedback.

My initial thought was to do a cashout refinance but realize this can get complicated with the VA Loan because of a lack of equity in the property.

I'm also branching over from an industry much more complicated than real estate.  

While I have met people who are too paralyzed to move, I have met more who have done miserably stupid things out of greed, overconfidence, and just plain arrogance.I think the next move you make should be to take careful stock of your financial situation and simplify what looks like a series of very complicated investments in a lot of places.

It is also a somewhat complicated matter with respect to eligibility to take such a distribution and the process of regaining taxes paid with amended returns if the funds are returned to the IRA within the allowed three year window.