Accept where your personality helps you in this biz and focus on that end. 

Give her the option of breaking her lease or accepting the bait stations. 

Lenders won't accept any profited rental income towards my income but will cancel out the debt if I provide them a lease.

You also have to want to be available at all times to answer questions, accept reservations and handle issues in a timely manner.

It comes down to your comfortability.With 2-4 units, you would qualify for a higher loan amount because they factor in the income from the other units.Whenever I write offers that are not accepted, I always ask for feedback as to why the other offer got accepted.  

If so, just accept what he says and raise the rents in the next 30-60 days via a rental increase.

It would have worked out beautifully but we did not get our offer accepted. 

The offer was accepted the next morning.

I am really just wondering if it's "socially acceptable" to shoot an email and ask a seller's agent for rent roll numbers on a fully occupied small multifamily.

Is there a syndicator that you have in mind that accepts retirement money?