You can basically give them a detailed rehab budget and comparable sales to supplement/justify your offer. 

Or a more generic question is do you have any lessons learned from this that may help going forward?

If we agree on a price, do I just give them a generic new york state real estate contract?

A seller carried note, in this case, is an opportunity for her to supplement her retirement income.I'm going to sandbox here, obviously it's unlikely you will do exactly this, but it's a starting place:If you want to play the long game, and are yourself young enough to do so, you could pair the seller carried note with peppercorn rent specified in a lease of $1/mo that lasts until she dies.

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It may not be a bad idea to consult with a local lender and see if they could provide a supplemental loan or a Line of Credit to help finance the costs. 

I’m getting my systems in place but I’m planning on postcard (clean up address generic meaning I don’t market with anything about foreclosure), first letter intro & state I got their information from public records about pre-foreclosure & offer for cash as is sale, second letter benefits of short sale, third letter negative impacts of foreclosure.

It may have been a generic rant about bottom-feeding types of wholesellers but with them being placed in the comment thread of another person's post it came across as a personal attack.

Investing time in building connections here can be very valuable and will certainly supplement what you get out of meeting with local investors.

i was wondering if anyone has come up with a generic worksheet/contract form for rehabs?