There are things that need to be done that we simply can't do with them living there. 

The way I saw real estate at the time was, saving money, buying a multi family, live there with tenant who help pay for my house.

It all comes down to finding a program and/or service that will meet 80% of your requirements and can you live with the other 20% that doesn't meet your requirements. 

He was threatening to "blast" us if we didnt cash them out of the deal or pay them more money to extend their lending period, which isn't stated anywhere in the contract, neither are terms for if they want to be cashed out of the deal.

I proposed to put down 20% (50/50) on a house where we can live together and invest the rest on other properties since she said she does not want to live in a house that is only mine...I won't ask why.

They don't expect you to live there for half a year, but it is more of having the ability to. 

One lot has the home I am living in.

I live in German Village.

I am house hacking a single family home and will be able to live for free and also some left over each month! 

Recently bought a house 3 weeks ago it is a 4 bedroom 2 bath house I live in one room and have rented out the other 3 rooms.