Well today on Thursday it goes under contract.It is now clear to me that someone likely intentionally broke the key off in the lock.

I'd suggest focusing on wholesaling off-market properties because a Realtor not going let a buyer tie up a property that they have no intention/ability to close (which is the way it should be).  

My intentions is to have the advantage of the FHA loan while I will be owner occupying.

It is a great way for you to stockpile some cash for future investing and to pay down some bills in the meantime so that you can live, and breath, more comfortably on a daily basis. 

The intention of the post isn't to pit wholesalers against investors.

Hey all, I'm starting out in San diego so obviously properties cost a lot more than average.. i don't really have money for a down payment and I'm not really interested in flipping houses, my main interest is rental properties.. if I can put together a deal to flip I will, but as stated it's not my intention. 

It sounds like you set yourself up a sweet situation with the house hack you got going on and you knew what your intentions were for the property. 

It's best to assume positive intent and engage them as at face value.Yes, they might "learn how you operate" but what can they really take from one email or two?

The critical issue is your intent to hold for rental, investment or business use. 

That is my intention.