@Alexander Schloe Congrats on the marriage and thanks for your service.

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-> example ), and of course going through the emotional motions of "oh shucks sorry someone else had the offer accepted, once again here's who you need to talk to in order to get preapproved so you don't also miss out on the next one" with them in your role as realtor-therapist-marriage-counselor. 1 in 1000 chance they actually buy that house, in which case great.

She would get all my assets when I die anyway so if she gets nervous about the marriage, it will be time to pull the trigger on that murder she’s been planning for years. 

I think what you so aptly mention above is that people go into these things like a marriage I will never sell. so they don't think about exit and super long term they just get focused on today and Hey I am going to Make X cash flow.. 

“I’ll listen to a podcast you recommend and you can try this one”, I’ll read that book on marriage and feelings and you can try this REI one”).

I’ve been watching BP podcast and reading forums for a good year now.I've teamed up with a partner whom I've known for over ten years, she has a good amount of experience in rehabbing and buy and holds. she’s a real go-getter and I trust her, she's pretty much family by marriage.

You cannot remain in a one sided marriage forever. 

A person whose score was still high may have moved into my property at the beginning of a separation in marriage and a score that was about to plummet.Furthermore, I've rented what I think may be termed a "C" class property to tenants who surely had super low scores but I had no problem with the tenants paying.Although I don't have any hard evidence that credit reports and background checks are helpful, I would still recommend that you pay the cost and run them if you're in any doubt. 

Until you are both willing to commit to marriage, what makes you think you'll commit to any other contractual obligation?