The extrovert will be the one that is dealing with investors, property managers etc while the analytical partner will handle bookkeeping, deal analyzing etc.

We are looking for guidance from other landlords on how to handle this situation.

There are companies that will handle all of financials remotely (you will need to give them copies of leases and rental checks). 

You and your wife could house hack, live in one unit and let the other tenants pay for your monthly mortgage and put some cash in your pocket.Even if you do choose to move away or renew your contract and PCS, you now have time to start finding a good property manager to handle the day to day operation of the property.

Sometimes they are set up because there is community water or waste management not handled by the town. 

Funding, as little as personal money as possible, proper invoice handling etc.

For someone who self-manages, he/she should be doing all the showings, handling the money, and negotiating the lease.

A property manager at least can handle things professionally with experience built over years.

I'm guessing that's a big yes... now of course too as long as you can handle the payment, have some repair reserves etc. even if you're not cashflow positive. 

Another point is, after over 40 years of handling tenant complaints, vacancies, large repairs, (last year my repairs totalled $111,618)  Maybe it's just time to scale down and lessen the headaches (I have 5 vacancies right now).