Hot tub, pool table, outdoor living area with firepit, things for people to do and have fun together,

@Kelby Cox banks will usually fund 70-80% of the transaction, while you have to bring 20-30% equity as down payment to the table.

I would show them an amortization table & what they will recoup in 5 years.

Control: Decisions are made jointly about the property and all decisions are brought to the table by both partners to see if we are in agreement.

I dont see a $45k property appreciating that much in 5 years I would guess on a good day maybe being worth $50k (see my appreciation table below) so that would mean less people who will be able to buy it from you thus if you did in the future want to exit and sell this property you will likely have to seller finance (like these guys who are selling to you are because they know all of that and have no underwriting) or help someone find a non-conventional lender like a local bank and typically local banks do not like to lend to out of state investors for this very reason.

We make sure there are always fresh flowers on the table and a few muffins.

Instead of moving a desk, coffee table and other large items they can simply use what is already in the property.

What you've brought to the table is a dream. 

I had a really good understanding of what I needed to bring to the table to secure this deal. 1.

I took profits off the table.  ;-)