An investor friendly real estate agent that has honed there skills in this area could be of value.

Plumbing is the easiest, most expensive skill you can easily learn.

I also know that nothing in life is free and my skills lie in sales.

They are resilient, LEED, skilled  labor apprenticeships and % of my profits go toward research, care and holistic wellness for opiate addicted pregnant women and their children in an off grid residential center/transformational community.

The difference is you HAVE SKILLS I have NONE  LOL..  

im fairly new at this, im trying to get my underwriting skills down. im currently watching the link attached to understand it. so im starting out with a fourplex with a VA loan soon. and when I start looking im trying to understand how to underwrite it. or would underwriting be for 5+ units?

If what you refer to as soft costs is actually the overhead of running your overall business then you are experiencing the same problem that any fast growing business does.

its all about technique.. and why some are winners and some will never do anything with wholesaling or sales of RE they simply dont implement and have the skills needed. 

Perhaps talking to people will help you with your people skills which is clearly something you're lacking.

Some tech skills are required or you can outsource it.